Matt James and Rachael Kirkconnell's relationship hasn't always been easy, but The Bachelor's latest couple is making it work! James recently spoke to the podcast Pomp about the off-again, on-again romance between them, revealing the major turning point that made him commit to being with her.

James admits he wasn't giving the relationship his full effort

James told Pomp that there was a moment where Kirkconnell had levelled with him, giving him what he called "an ultimatum" when it came to their romantic future. "She was like, 'If you're going to make this work, let's do it. But, if you’re not going to make it work, I’m going to let you do your own thing,'" he shared.

According to the season 25 "Bachelor," this was what prompted him to become a more equal partner in his relationship with Kirkconnell. "That's really all I needed," James said. He mentioned that while he hadn't always been "honoring" his end of things, the moment served as "a commitment that we made to each other that we were going to work on the relationship."

Matt James in a promotional image for season 25 of The Bachelor

James says he had an early "connection" with Kirkconnell

James then went on to say that his relationship with Kirkconnell looked "a little different" than expected due to the world's current circumstances. He shared that during the pandemic, the two have "watched a lot of movies" and "worked our way through Disney+." He also mentioned that they experienced "rough patches," and even "broke up for a moment."

As for what makes him feel drawn to Kirkconnell in particular, James mentioned having had a "connection" with her early on during The Bachelor, and "had an idea pretty early" that she was the woman for him. "The best thing about Rachael is her heart," he said to Pomp. "She’s the most kind, caring person, understanding, I’ve ever met."

James also shared that Kirkconnell has "stuck right by my side," and that she has "continued to have a positive attitude" even when things have been difficult. Back in April, he briefly discussed rekindling things with Kirkconnell, saying that he "was going to focus" on their relationship.

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